wtf wrote: ↑Sat Mar 31, 2018 11:42 pm
So, what is the expert advice on being a functional, alcoholic parent?
You need to put their needs first. This means you can't do anything you want. Tonight, for example, I'm not drinking. It's my younger boy's fourth birthday tomorrow morning and I have to wrap the pass the parcel. Tomorrow afternoon, I'll buy a case of beer and a bottle of bourbon; but I won't start drinking until 5pm and I won't get drunk until the kids are bathed and in their pajamas.
It helps that my wife is nearly teetotal now. She was never a big drinker. When she became pregnant with our older boy she stopped altogether and never really started again. She doesn't like me drinking too much; so I try and keep it reasonably together. The only times I really cut loose is when I go away by myself. This is usually for a fews days solo travelling when we visit her parents in Japan; and the occasional conference. Then I'll be drinking whiskey straight from the bottle as soon as I wake up, if I want.
Speaking of which, we're off to Japan next weekend. I've got two nights to myself visiting Tottori and Okayama. Even still, I won't be going crazy. I'm going to try to not start drinking until noon; and no whiskey until 5pm. By and large. A drink or two with breakfast won't hurt anyone.
But, if you're behaving in a way that'll get your kids taken off you, it's probably best that they are. If you're in a position to employ a nanny, I guess it doesn't matter. Plenty of wealthy drunks out there - including judges, politicians etc.