I know its been a while..but I need advice

OscarWildesCharm · Post by **OscarWildesCharm** » Wed Apr 11, 2007 2:14 am

Ok..So...My best friend and I went out for drinks tonight and we got kinda boozed up, as I usually do. Vodka and Jager is a BITCH. Anyways, SO for some reason I found it to be a good time to tell him how I feel about him, I really like him blah blah blah....I laid it all on the line and to my suprise he didn't reject me, said he felt the same way, yet he felt that I am on stage too much (I am a singer) and that he doesn't know if its ME or my stage persona talking (I did a show tonight). Anyone? what do I say or how do I seperate myself from my stage persona LOL. I am a singer, but I do like a Frank Sinatra set, I sing Sinatra songs and drink scotch and smoke Camel unfiltered on stage. I become Frank LOL. But he thinks that my confession was just an extension of my stage persona which SUCKS. So any ladies out there have any words of advice or guys for that matter? I'm drowning here.

bluebottle · Post by **bluebottle** » Wed Apr 11, 2007 2:40 am

so you told your best friend that you are in love with him only he doesn't quite believe you 'cause he's not sure that it's not your real self telling him this, rather your stage persona? i am as confused as you. where does real life start and where does it end? i must congratulate you on managing to blur the distinction but it will lead to lots of trouble, apparently. i would only say, save the drama for hte stage and in regular life have the simple forthrightness to love him unabashedly.

OscarWildesCharm · Post by **OscarWildesCharm** » Wed Apr 11, 2007 4:23 am

I tried to say that what I do on stage is an act, but when I try to be nice and kind he thinks its part of my act LOL, I guess Sinatra has fucked me twice because I get all the applause as him and all the accolades as him but when I try to be me, Its like Dave just thinks its me being Frank Sinatra which sucks LOL

Bigfoot · Post by **Bigfoot** » Wed Apr 11, 2007 8:52 am

No dude wants to screw Frank Sinatra. Make him quit coming to your shows and start doing stuff away from there, that way you can show him that you don't have a hang down when you get off stage.

Rooster · Post by **Rooster** » Wed Apr 11, 2007 9:08 am

People like you and want to be friends with you, because you're YOU, not because you're someone else. If he feels that you're losing your identity, and you generally respect his opinion in such matters, maybe it's time to take a step back and take stock of yourself. People are attracted to each other by a mixture of conformity to a common group identity, but more so to an individuals identity within the group. If your on-stage persona is leaking over, maybe it's time to go and do the things you used to do as pals to begin with.

Thee Totaller · Post by **Thee Totaller** » Wed Apr 11, 2007 9:16 am

That's Life.

OscarWildesCharm · Post by **OscarWildesCharm** » Wed Apr 11, 2007 1:13 pm

Many times I thought about cuttin' out, but my heart just won't buy it LOL.

Jimmy&Guinney · Post by **Jimmy&Guinney** » Sat Apr 14, 2007 3:51 am

You can be the most artistically perfect performer in the world, but an audience is like a broad--if you're indifferent, Endsville.

Ano · Post by **Ano** » Sat Apr 14, 2007 5:32 am

Guys dont give a shit about anything as deep as that. That whole speel was just an excuse, he just doesnt want to screw you.

Jack Hackett · Post by **Jack Hackett** » Sat Apr 14, 2007 6:00 am

OscarWildesCharm wrote:Ok..So...My best friend and I went out for drinks tonight and we got kinda boozed up, as I usually do. Vodka and Jager is a BITCH. Anyways, SO for some reason I found it to be a good time to tell him how I feel about him, I really like him blah blah blah....I laid it all on the line and to my suprise he didn't reject me, said he felt the same way, yet he felt that I am on stage too much (I am a singer) and that he doesn't know if its ME or my stage persona talking (I did a show tonight). Anyone? what do I say or how do I seperate myself from my stage persona LOL. I am a singer, but I do like a Frank Sinatra set, I sing Sinatra songs and drink scotch and smoke Camel unfiltered on stage. I become Frank LOL. But he thinks that my confession was just an extension of my stage persona which SUCKS. So any ladies out there have any words of advice or guys for that matter? I'm drowning here.

My advice is to tell him to take it or leave it. Life's too short to play the waiting game. To tell you the truth, I'm not sure he's into you. That sounds like some kind of lame-ass excuse I would've pulled at 20-23.

My two cents.

Cudos on doing Frankie songs.

Sigh Co. · Post by **Sigh Co.** » Sat Apr 14, 2007 6:29 am

Tell him to pull the string and to stop being such a d-nozzle. I have never, nor have I heard from any of my friends, worried about whether a lady was "her true self" or not. Sounds to me like he's fishing for excuses...

Jack Hackett · Post by **Jack Hackett** » Sat Apr 14, 2007 6:38 am

Absolutely. I'm sorry. But being A Guy, I have to say that this type of lame-ass b.s. is common. How old are you both? What I call the "b.s. excuse phase" passes sooner for girls than guys, probably because you get propositioned more often and earlier. No, you say? Ah - now you're entering what I term the "b.s. excuse phase for women"!

And people said whiskey wouldn't be good for my cold...

ThirstyDrunk · Post by **ThirstyDrunk** » Sat Apr 14, 2007 6:51 am

O.K so wait...
are we talking aboout two guys, or what?

GSG · Post by **GSG** » Sat Apr 14, 2007 7:15 am

That sounds like a tricky one and no mistake. My advice to you is to start drinking heavily. I wouldn't know what to do about your situation, so that's the best I can offer. Good luck!

Bender! · Post by **Bender!** » Sat Apr 14, 2007 7:40 am

ThirstyDrunk wrote:O.K so wait...
are we talking aboout two guys, or what?

Yes.

Grow up.

I know its been a while..but I need advice

I know its been a while..but I need advice

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